The causes of stress are different for everyone but no one will
argue that divorce is one of them. Whether you have chosen to divorce, or are
being left by your spouse, your emotions will range from hurt, anger, fear,
sadness, resentment and guilt, to mention just a few.
Divorce is a monumental change in your life. It is natural to
will find a job if you are moving, how you will juggle your job without the
help of your spouse, how you will re-enter the job market are all common place.
What will happen to friendships with mutual friends or how to find love again
are equally natural concerns.
And
in the midst of this emotional turmoil and the stressors of an already busy
life, is an unfamiliar, time consuming project called “DIVORCE”. You already
can’t imagine being able to navigate your day to day tasks without being
overcome by emotions that will interfere with your job and your children’s
lives. You need an empathetic ear and a helping hand.
Enlist
the help and support of a non-critical and non- judgmental friend or relative.
If you don’t have someone who fits the bill, and depending on your beliefs and
finances, use a professional, go to a support group or talk to a cleric. And
don’t you be critical of yourself.
At
a later part of the divorce journey, when you are further removed from your
initial emotions you should consider examining what problems you brought to the
relationship and what you can do differently in future relationships with
friends, family and potential partners.
You
are entitled to have fun….and if you are reading this as you begin the divorce
process, you can not image that divorce will and does bring unimagined
opportunities, new friendships, and positive shifts in relationships. Great
growth and personal development can come from the divorce experience. And
although no one goes into a marriage hoping for a divorce, this like many of
life’s unexpected transitions, can have a silver lining.
"Divorce Information Now" is an ongoing
column. Readers are encouraged to submit questions about divorce in the comment
stream and we will respond in subsequent blogs. Find us at http://www.divorceinformationnow.com
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order to develop DIVORCE Information NOW products and services we worked with
lawyers, financial advisors, accountants, therapists as well as people who have
been through the divorce process, in order to determine what each constituency
felt we should include.
