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Share the Warmth: New Canaan Coat Drive

There are people who need coats, and not like I need a new coat this year. But like, no money, no stores, no coats, Need them! Help me to help them!

We do not need to look very far to find a different world.

Today, there is a child who does not have a coat to keep her warm just 19 miles from the corner shop where I bought my daughter a new one for this year. And there are 15,000 more men, women and children just like that child in Bridgeport who will not have a coat either. That is almost as many people as we have in New Canaan. But, we can do something, and someone is. The Bridgeport Rescue Mission will give out over 15,000 coats next month for free to anyone who needs one. I have rounded up 7 in my house alone that I will be taking to them. I would love to have my car so full that I cannot see out of the back.

So as you sort out the winter clothes and buy new for the season, I'd love to donate any that you don't need anymore for you. They are in need of all sizes, adult and child. You can drop them off at to from now until November 1st. Let's share the warmth! 

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Sheryl Shaker October 23, 2012 at 11:38 pm
Thanks for organizing this, Kristin--and thanks to Swirl for helping you collect the coats!
Baffled Resident October 24, 2012 at 12:22 am
It's great that you're thinking about those that are less fortunate, Kristin.
Unfortunately, i do have some reservations about what will happen once they have received the coats. I would expect that coat theft and resale of the coats by the recipients will occur, since most NC residents are not going to be donating basic mundane department store(i.e.:WalMart/KMart/Target) style coats. Perhaps a better solution would be for people to drop their unused coats at a consignment shop, and then take the proceeds from the sale and apply it toward the purchase of coat(s) that are less likely to be misappropriated?
Lauren October 24, 2012 at 04:28 pm
I think we can give Kristin the benefit of the doubt and assume that she will be donating the coats to said cause...right, Kristin?? -staying hopeful :)
Baffled Resident October 24, 2012 at 10:32 pm
Whoa! Lauren, if you can't comprehend my post, then please have someone translate it for you. I never, NEVER insinuated that Ms. Thomas would abscond with the coats. READ THE POST AGAIN.
S-L-O-W-E-R T-H-I-S T-I-M-E................
Jaimie Cura (Editor) October 25, 2012 at 01:16 am
What a lovely thought, sharing the warmth. Collection drives like this make me feel like the warmth extends far beyond the literal warmth of coats.
Chow mein October 26, 2012 at 06:57 am
This is nice, in theory. But what is being done so that these people who can't afford coats are taught to be self reliant? Give a man a coat, warm him for a day. Get him off alcohol and drugs, teach him a skill and how to keep a job, and you'll be keeping him safe and warm forever.
Chow mein October 26, 2012 at 07:03 am
My neighbors 2 doors down used to go on Habitat for Humanity excursions. They'd donate a week or two of their time, travel out of town, sometimes out of the country at their own expense, and help to build a deserving family a new home from scratch.
They did this for years. Then one year, they re-visited a two year-old house, and said the abuse and neglect of this new house was incredible. They have not done H4H since. They concluded that sometimes people are just down on their luck, but most times, there is a very good reason or reasons why they are poor--and it's not something that money or a house can fix.
Kristin Thomas October 26, 2012 at 12:24 pm
Helping people turn their lives around is the most important - you are right. The Bridgeport Rescue Mission actually has a New Life Recovery program, free to men and women, that does just that. If you wanted to help support that, I know they would greatly appreciate it!
Ade October 26, 2012 at 03:09 pm
Seriously, BR?? First off, there are plenty of folks in New Canaan shopping at WalMart/Target, etc. Secondly, I have volunteered at many shelters, etc. and the people receiving these items are very happy to have them and wear them. I have never been made aware of a giant black market where proceeds from donated coats are lining the pockets of the recipients. If, as you say, a recipient wants to resell an expensive jacket to buy a cheaper one and use the remaining cash for, say, food, why would you even care? You've done your part by donating the coat. If you really care and are overwhelmingly concerned about coat-flipping, you should take yourself down to your favorite discount store and buy a dozen coats you deem unlikely to be stolen or resold and drop them off at Swirl. I'm sure Ms. Thomas would be more than happy to receive your donation.
Baffled Resident October 26, 2012 at 04:26 pm
"Ade
11:09 am on Friday, October 26, 2012 Seriously, BR?? If, as you say, a recipient wants to resell an expensive jacket to buy a cheaper one and use the remaining cash for, say, food, why would you even care?" I would not have any issue at all with a recipient reselling an expensive coat, and then purchasing an inexpensive one and using the additional $$$ for food/rent/etc. It would be the prudent thing to do. However, the reality is that many of these folks in need will use the funds to partake in illicit behaviors. Get out of your little bubble and go down to the inner-city residential neighborhoods and observe what occurs within these neighborhoods.
Ade October 26, 2012 at 04:45 pm
I have spent plenty of time in inner-city neighborhoods and I am not blind to what occurs there. BUT, if you donate a coat to a drive and the recipient chooses to sell it for drugs, then so be it. Not every person receiving a coat is going to the dark side. Is it better to withhold a coat for a needy person for fear they are selling it for drugs than to take a chance that they will use it to stay warm?
Baffled Resident October 26, 2012 at 04:52 pm
"Ade
12:45 pm on Friday, October 26, 2012 I have spent plenty of time in inner-city neighborhoods and I am not blind to what occurs there. BUT, if you donate a coat to a drive and the recipient chooses to sell it for drugs, then so be it." So be it? You have no problem with a mother or father taking a coat intended for their child, and selling it so that they can go party? That's warped. But, what does it matter? You did your good deed by donating, so it isn't your problem what happens afterward.
Ade October 26, 2012 at 05:37 pm
BR, you can't control the world. I do have a problem with someone selling their child's coat to go party but you can't paint the entire world of poverty with the same brush. Not every person that can't afford a coat is a drug addict. I would rather take a chance that these parents will do the right thing than not donate a coat in the first place. Even if half the parents getting a coat sold it for drugs, that still leaves half of the kids with a coat. Sadly, children living in crisis can not have their lives fixed by the donation of one coat. Sorry to disappoint you but I'm not someone's wealthy wife tossing money around to make myself feel better. Take your well-meaning guilt trip elsewhere.
Baffled Resident October 26, 2012 at 08:14 pm
I never insinuated that Ms. Thomas was someone's wealthy wife tossing money around to make herself feel better. My concern strictly involves raising awareness on the right and wrong way to make a donation. I'm not sure why yourself and "Lauren" feel the need to malign the character and integrity of the organizer of this drive. Shame on you.
Ade October 26, 2012 at 09:06 pm
What? To quote YOU "if you can't comprehend my post, then please have someone translate it for you. READ THE POST AGAIN. S-L-O-W-E-R T-H-I-S T-I-M-E" My comments have NOTHING to do with Ms. Thomas. My comments are meant entirely for you; the person that is questioning Ms. Thomas' good deed. You are the one painting all folks in need of a hand as re-selling drug-addicts who would rather get high than keep their child warm. My comment about not being a wealthy man's wife and your guilt trip are about ME. You seem to be trying to make me feel like I'm frivolous with my potential donation because I'm not thinking 3 steps ahead down a dark alley about the final destination for a coat I could share with a less fortunate person. YOU are the one that started off by telling Ms. Thomas how her coat drive was being handled in a way that you felt was going to fund "partying" and cause rampant coat theivery among the needy. I am not against what Ms. Thomas is doing. I am defending Ms. Thomas' actions. You are the naysayer here. I have worked face to face with needy families for DECADES. A coat is a VERY welcome thing for families in need. I applaud Ms. Thomas and her efforts. If you think a generic coat will fix the re-sale problem, then go buy some and donate. If you have expensive ski wear you are afraid of landing in the wrong hands, then sell it yourself first and donate the proceeds to a food pantry, homeless shelter, rehab program, youth center or any place you see fit.
TP October 26, 2012 at 09:16 pm
To Baffled Resident and Ade - Patch has a wonderful feature whereby you can delete your own postings - I would recommend that each do that. You have made fools of yourselves (and a needless mockery of our town) with this crazy exchange. Swirl is trying to do something nice for the less fortunate. Lets just thank them, bring in a few old coats, and leave it at that. All you have to do is go into your profile, find your dumb posts and press delete - the world will then forget what fools you were in this thread.
Lauren October 26, 2012 at 09:18 pm
Ade - amen! Just read all of these posts...too bad they had to even start when all this is meant to be is a blog to let people know of a coat drive. A simple thing, one would think. Oh well...everyone has an opinion.
Baffled Resident - I apologize for misreading your initial post - but that is no need to get so riled up. Caps-lock, patronizing comments are silly. Also, as Ade has stated above, I was not saying anything negative to the integrity of the person holding this drive - I was actually giving her credit, if you re-read my comment.
Sheryl Shaker October 26, 2012 at 10:32 pm
Kristin said she's collected about 60 coats in the past few days! Thank you to everyone who made a donation...and keep them coming!
Baffled Resident November 6, 2012 at 12:46 am
For all of those that bashed the heck out of me in this thread, i just want to tell you what i overheard this evening inside of a tire shop. A customer(and Bridgeport resident, i heard her give her phone #) related to the service manager that her daughter's recently obtained North Face jacket had been stolen the previous day.
Ade November 9, 2012 at 04:26 pm
Oh, heavens, BR!?! Yes, you have convinced me with your tale of a stolen jacket in Bridgeport. I will never again donate a name brand item to charity as long as I live!! With your outlook on the motives of the less-fortunate, maybe the kid sold her own jacket for drug money and told her mom it was stolen? Give it a rest and go help someone. Maybe you could go buy a new coat for this Bridgeport resident's child? It wouldn't be difficult to find her if she is a customer of your employer. There are tons of people not very far from here that lost everything last week. Do you think the blankets, coats, diapers, formula and batteries I just donated to another NC resident are going to be sold by hurricane victims in New Jersey to buy crack? I'll say it again, not all poor people are drug addicts with bad intentions.
Baffled Resident November 10, 2012 at 02:15 am
Do you have any reading comprehension skills at all? I said that i overheard the customer giving a Bridgeport phone #. If i were an employee, wouldn't i have access to that #? Since you're going to insist on just being an insufferable bi*ch, you can call the damn tire shop for yourself to confirm it. It was Firestone in Stratford.
And, since you've brought it up, formula is kept under lock and key in many establishments. I wouldn't tell someone to just leave formula on my side porch, as that would be an invitation to undesirables looking to make a quick buck. I won't hold my breath waiting for you to come back and apologize. Keep living in that little cocoon of yours sweetie.
Hollywood2 November 10, 2012 at 03:46 am
Baffled, You are truly an idiot.
Or, is moron a better fit.
Hollywood2 November 10, 2012 at 03:47 am
Sorry, I forgot F^%$n idiot
Patchmaker November 10, 2012 at 07:45 pm
Hollywood2, Baffled Resident isn't an idiot. She is just confused, dumbfounded or confounded. Ironically, all three are synonyms for baffled. Now back to the original theme for this thread; thank you to Kristin for being a caring person, during this time of need. KEN
Ade November 10, 2012 at 09:01 pm
What is it exactly you think I need to apologize for, BR? Misreading and assuming you work in a tire shop? Not all employees in a tire shop would necessarily have access to customer records. I think what is upsetting to you is that you keep trying to point out the worst in people and I keep pointing out how sad it is you think that way. I don't live in a cocoon. I was not raised in New Canaan or an equivalent. I know that there are bad people in every price range. I just don't hold back on helping those in need because a percentage of people receiving the help might use my donation for something other than what I intended. You don't live in New Canaan so I have to wonder why you are paying such close attention to the goings-on in this town. Maybe you are looking for charity drop-off boxes to rob?
Baffled Resident November 10, 2012 at 10:58 pm
I wouldn't need to rob charity dropboxes if i were looking to commit larceny. I'd only need to peruse the announcements/blogs on here to find out where i can find the good stuff, like formula on a side porch, for example.
Esprit de Corps November 11, 2012 at 12:40 am
No good deed goes unpunished.
Note Article
Just a short thought to get the word out quickly about anything in your neighborhood.
Share something with your neighbors. Write a new post... What's up? Make an announcement, speak your mind, or sell something
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